As a follow on from my End Of Year Review and as part of my overall end of year reflections I began concocting a ‘lessons I learned’ post after feeling inspired by reading similar posts by others. It ended up as a list of 20 which felt like the right place to stop.
I love the simple clarity of some of these lessons contrasted with the depth and complexity of others - a complexity that goes so much deeper than the words on the page.
Many of these lessons I am already well on the road to putting into action, others will take a little longer as the acknowledgement and the implications land within my soul.
This list is not conclusive but all felt significant for me and I feel offers something of a beautiful indicator as to where my life has journeyed over the last 12 months and areas of focus and intention for the next 12 ongoing.
I’d love to hear from you… what are your top lessons of 2018 …and where are you headed for 2019?
20 lessons I learned in 2018
‘Home’ is an internal place not an external one.
The importance of creating clear boundaries and expectations in relationships -both personal and business.
Love will find me when I’m ready and willing to ask for it and let it in.
Travel does not have to be expensive, complicated or a luxury.
I have a desire to live a location independent lifestyle.
I do want kids after all (this one is huge for me)
How much of my precious energy I drain through investing too much in people or situations that aren't in alignment with me.
Difficult conversations will never get easier if expectations and boundaries are not first created, and even then they still require courage to be had.
Stories are powerful - both in terms of how we connect as humans and the (often negative) stories we tell ourselves- rewrite that script!
A calling to take the next step on my writing journey and publish a book.
I can choose to be the 'victim' or the 'owner' of literally any situation I find myself in.
Having continuously rebelled against the idea of ‘structure’ and ‘planning’ since having the freedom of working for myself, I realise I absolutely need them in order to succeed. (note: I ordered a planner for next year and I will commit to using it!)
I currently hold a very negative ‘money story’ which is holding me back from financial abundance (massive reality check!)
What I perceive and beat myself up as being as my big old shame stories no one else even notices or cares about, they’ve got their own stuff to deal with.
Making 'bliss balls' are my no. 1 procrastination distraction tactic!
It's totally ok to be picky, and actually the more specific you are about your desires the more you give ‘the universe’ to work with to co-create with you.
If I'm not mindful, my default mode is to fall into being a 'rescuer' and that does not serve either me or them.
My new favourite green smoothie recipe is: 1 banana, 2 packed cups of spinach and the juice of 1 lime (try it!)
To get to experience the amazingness of life we also have to be willing to embrace the messy bits. We cannot ‘numb’ selectively and there is beauty in the pain.
The pleasure gained from sipping tea from a very big mug cannot be underestimated!