"You talk about permission and I see it from another lens. What I notice in own life is that the times that I got what I wanted is not when I've added something in, but when I took something away - things I picked up throughout my life that got in the way, the beliefs and stories. It's permission to let go”. - David Taylor
The Permission Podcast Series : Exploring what it means to give yourself permission to live life on your own terms.
David is someone that I first met back in 2015 when he ran a weekend event called Be The Miracle and it not an exaggeration to say that it was probably one of the most life-changing events in my life so far in terms of it delivering a powerful message at a time when I was ready to receive it.
It was my first experience of understanding what it means to show up with vulnerability and authenticity and I've never forgotten that moment and the spark it lit inside.
I have always been drawn to how David shows and how that has evolved over time in his work as a coach but also more recently his work a powerful film-maker that brings forth powerful inner stories.
Find more about David here: www.extraordinary.coach/home
Listen below or via your favourite podcast platform…
Ep. 7 David Taylor : Permission To Let Go
Highlights that stood out for me as we talked…
*timings are approximate
1:00 - How we met, vulnerability and it being one of the most life-changing moments of Jo’s life.
3:00 - Deep gratitude
6:00 - A powerful space to draw you in and draw you out.
8:30 - Permission not to ‘do’ something, but to ‘let go’ of something that was getting in the way.
10:30 - How a moment of laughter around the family dinner table fundamentally shaped David's life. "I made a decision in that moment, I'm never going to ask for help again".
13:00 - You can never get enough of what you do not really need.
16:30 - Accepting my identity. “For most of my adult life I really didn't want to have children. I was so isolated as a child, I couldn't imagine creating that”
19:30 - Is it about permission or is it about integrating who I was, with acceptance, which then created possibility?
22:30 - Childhood shame.
24:00 - David's filming process- 'The Stillness Process". No question, no direction, no guidance.
26:00 - The journey to be utterly present to create the ultimate permission.
34:00 - The gap between 'deciding' to do it and 'arriving' in the chair. Step by step moments of self permission. Choosing to share publicly creates self-permission to be seen.
39:00 - Feeling physically sick sharing his own film, then hitting publish and feeling total liberation.
44:40 - The opposite of going with the flow is that at each and every moment making a conscious choice. When we live in a world of choice and permission, that is living consciously.
49:00 - The choice to be uncomfortable.
Find out more and connect with David:
David Taylor is coach who is evolving into a film maker. David noticed that one of the most powerful gifts you can give to someone is a silent presence where they can feel truly heard. To be heard, to know it and feel it fulfils a deep longing. David's use of film can deeply serve clients in a way that coaching and other therapeutic approaches do not always address. The film process is intimate and gentle, and yet can enable the most powerful stories to come forward and be heard. It also enables a rare thing, for the subject to meet with themselves as part of the final result.
Whether it is coaching or film work - David creates a powerful space for deep transformation.