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Mantra for Monday no. 132
 

I’ve been enjoying some down time these last couple of weeks.

The sun was in the sky and my work flow had unexpectedly reached a natural lull, so it was the perfect opportunity to take advantage of the situation.

Except I couldn’t…. not initially anyway.  As much as I wanted to lay back on the grass and simply relax, I found myself getting anxious and then immediately frustrated at myself for feeling that way about a situation many people would be so envious of.

Lack of structure and a feeling of not having ‘earned’ the chance to switch off (yeah I know that’s crazy!) threatened to overwhelm me, and for a few days I struggled to keep that feeling at bay. That was until I decided to simply and consciously go with the flow, embrace it and honour it, allow the ever changing landscape knowing that a few weeks down the line things would become crazy busy once again. A beautiful rhythm.

Though unstructured, these waves of ebb and flow are inherently part of my creating a life away from the 9-5, a life on my own terms and with my own agenda. These waves of ebb and flow- this rhythm of my life- keeps me on my toes, my mind nourished and my creativity full to the brim.

This lull gave me the chance to experiment with being ok to have no agenda when I woke in the morning having little concept of when my next source of income would arise. Instead I got curious in that soft stillness as I lay on a blanket in the park in the middle of the day quietly observing the passers by rushing too and fro in their own little world. 

Sometimes it takes a change in direction, both the ebb and the flow, to truly appreciate the rhythm of life itself and respond like the echo.

 

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Mantra for Monday no. 131
 

This is such a powerful truth for me. 

There are so many ways to manifest 'power'...

  • knowledge is power
  • strength is power
  • confidence is power
  • winning is power
  • trying is power
  • failing is power

Power is a personal understanding and deeper mental association. Regardless of your take on things one thing remains true... we ALL have power within us BUT so many of us fail so see it, to believe in it and to use it.

I have been reading a lot of coaching books and articles on the subject of self development through the eyes of both coach and client. One of my coaching 'idols' is Rich Litvin who said in an workshop he was taking:

"A powerful coach is a place to come from and not to. It’s not out there, it’s in here!"

Wow... those were powerful words for me. They made me think back to the quote above and I realised those words were not just applicable to me as a coach but to everybody around me making their own way in this world.

We always look to the outside world for answers and validation, often causing inner conflict and self doubt in the process. Our intuition is always right there ready to serve us, if only we'd listen. That's our start point and our place to come from. The power lives inside you all along.

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Mantra for Monday no. 130
 

Observing the perfectionist

I actually wrote this post whilst sitting in the back seat of the car as my sister was driving my family and I on a day trip whilst on holiday last week. As I gazed through the window at the countryside whizzing past, my mind wandered free and I wrote these thoughts on my phone as they came to my mind. 

 

In recent months I have begin to more actively cultivate the art of 'curiosity' through observation. I support clients in doing the same.

This morning was a classic example when I went for a run with my brother and sister through the countryside. Out of the three of us, I have always been the one most consistently involved in exercise over the years since childhood. I was also the one who initially took to running when completing my first Tough Mudder obstacle course race a couple of years back. I am also the perfectionist. The competitive one.

I have run much less frequently in recent months, focussing much more heavily on strength training. On the other hand my sister has recently completed a half marathon and my brother competes with a rowing club and as part of that training goes out running with his team. 

I knew from a technical standpoint their cardio fitness would likely out do mine.  I had already reasoned with the perfectionist inside that would be fine.  

That said, as we pounded the roads and trails I found that emotions still bubbled up, the child inside on the verge of having a strop or trying to create an excuse as to why I was a few paces behind (literally only a few paces). A little voice began to get dismissive 'well I just won't go tomorrow then, there's no point'. 

But then I caught myself. I gave the perfectionist inside a mental hug. Thanked her for being there to push me when I needed it, but then reminder her that right now I had no goal or agenda, other than to simply observe the journey and enjoy the ride. 

Immediately that little voice changed tone. The child inside, distracted from her strop, got curious. The curiosity allowed me to relax and enjoy the senses, the sights, smells and the terrain beneath my feet. When we ran up a big hill, I got curious in observing the intense new feelings without feeling frustrated that my pace had slowed to a bare run (I could have walked faster!).

The most interesting thing to come from all of this, is that my performance was no less that it would have been if the inner perfectionist had been allowed to run riot and been screaming at me inside to work harder. Instead nothing outwardly was different, but inwardly everything had changed. 

Get curious. Get powerful. 
 

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Mantra for Monday no. 129
 
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This is the first time I have written a blog post and published it directly from my phone. I'm away on holiday, away from my laptop with just this small screen (and my tapping thumb) for connectivity. Trying something new seemed appropriate given my current mindset!

Sitting here in the sunshine after a day of indulgence, I find myself reflecting.  

Regardless of religion or spirituality, Easter marks a new beginning. There is no escaping this.

The clocks have changed, the evenings are lighter and our minds are lifted. Spring has always marked a period of transition and change. Of stretch and growth.

Those ideas and goals incubated over the winter months have their chance to come alive. The universe is here to lift you up and support you as you take those steps out of your cocoon.  

This is your time to chase your dreams.

To flourish and bloom. 

The magical time of new beginnings is upon us and for those who want to take that leap, always know I am hear for you... To believe in you.

Start something new.

 

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Mantra for Monday no. 128
 

You've probably heard me say before how hard I find meditating. Sitting still with no fixed focus is hard.

I have found some ways to overcome this... by running... I talked about that here.

I even signed up for The Mindful In may Challenge last year... I really tried hard! 

A friend recently reminded of Andy Puddicombe and his Headspace app which I had downloaded a long-time ago but didn't dedicate time to consistently. Over the last week Ii have been more focussed in building it into my daily routine. I like his soft gentle words, and the ways he creates and environment the allows you to wander off and to simply return. 

Mediation is all about noticing and observing, not giving ourselves a hard time when our minds wonder in amongst the 'clouds' but simply to notice that is happening and pull back from them to watch the clouds whilst still appreciating the blue sky.

Now i'm not trying to stop the thoughts from entering my mind, but simply noticing them like a child with a sense of curiosity. A subtle change in perspective maybe, but it may make all the difference,

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Mantra for Monday no. 126
 

You know sometimes a quote brings tears to the corners of your eyes and makes your throat tighten a little as the words filter across you mind... yep, for me this is one of them.

The lyricism, the gentle push out in to the unknown the spirit if engaging us to question everything, yet still offering that safe cocoon if it were all to go wrong.

We play it safe all to often. Scared of letting ourselves and others down, willing to live in the comfort of not pushing boundaries yet constantly quietening that little voice longing for more.  That little voice longing you to throw away preconceived ideas, the worries, tick lists, other people wishes....the would's, could's and should's.

Ask yourself truly, what is the very worst that can happen? Then take that consequence and find a solution.... then look up to the sky and allow the breeze to catch your wings.

You won't fall the universe is always ready to catch you.

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Mantra for Monday no. 125

It's been a long time since I've written you a Mantra for Monday or Silent Sinday for that matter. I missed those posts and want them back...

I have decided though that the silent Sundays have probably had their day. I love the power of a photo, but don't always have the chance to take beautiful ones I feel worthy to share each week, and instead they can serve as the backdrop to my 'mantras'.

Long live the Mantra for Monday!  I'm aiming to bring these week as a regular weekly feature... watch this space.

I came across this verse by  extracted on Instagram and each one of these words resonated to the heart of me.  I hope you enjoy them too. 

After note (because lots of people were asking where they came from!) I found these words on the Instagram account by @roadtoeverywhere and because there was a John Steinbeck book in the background (East of Eden) I assumed they had been extracted from him. But I haven't been able to track them down on google... so maybe there were written by Carina herself, the lady behind the account.  I asked but I still don't know for sure. Whoever write this words... they remain beautiful! 

 

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Mantra for Monday no. 124
 

I love videos, podcasts, books and lectures that make you think. Really make you think. Things that turn your perspective on their head and help you question the status quo and consider that just because thing are the way they are doesn't mean that need to be or even should be.

I don't need 'answers', questions provide me with all I need to 'know'. They create the journey of discovery.

This video may not be for everyone, but it holds powerful messages over the nature of human thought and actions as a predetermined pattern of behaviour that makes life simpler. Maybe there is no rational thought at all.

The right path to being a happy, healthy person is to do all the s**t we already know we are supposed to do, becoming the most evolved person you have the capacity to be. Everybody makes their own path through this world, but most people don't follow that path there are most deeply drawn to.

In the end, just do the most you can.

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Mantra for Monday no. 123
 

Two things were on my mind as I wrote today's 'Mantra'.

Firstly the quote itself which is taken from one of my current favourite authors and poets whose book 'Chases of the Light'  I recently bought. Poems written on scraps of otherwise throwaway paper somehow seem so poignant.

Secondly I have been doing a lot of research, reading and self reflection in the field of self sabotage, the fear of success and the fear of failure. Such an intriguing topic for me and something with which so many of us struggle. Therefore these questions seemed particularly fitting and today I thought I'd put them out there for you to consider too.

Often I find it helps to flip things on their head and consider from an objective point of view what really would be the worst case scenario in any seemingly 'fearful' situation. More often than not the worst case scenario, whilst it maybe uncomfortable or inconvenient is actually not that big a deal in the general scheme of things, and also when assessed against the potential for the positivity which we would otherwise never allow to flourish.  

Once we know and understand that worst case scenario, the fear of taking the leap or forging ahead into the unknown loses its power over us and actually becomes part of the exciting adventure.

Trust your heart and trust your wings.

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Mantra for Monday no. 122
 

I've been readinthe work of Steve Chandler, the way he coaches and the metaphors and imagery he allows me to create in my mind really resonates with me. This particular quote by spiritual leader Ravi Shankar was one that Steve himself is quoted in Time Warrior and I love the lyrical quality it offers to such intangible qualities in our live. In visualising sound, movement, mind and life I'm able to give them a sense of place and understanding in my own minds eye so much more clearly.

The greatest opportunity for success in life, in whatever form it make take, is through stretch. Slow down and stop straining against fear but work with it and embrace it… stretch for the joy of stretching. 

 

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Mantra for Monday no. 121
 

So must truth in this statement. 

With many of my clients, I often hear frustrated statements along the lines of: "I know that I should (insert most appropriate) ...loose weight/stop smoking/get fit/eat more veg/drink more water" and I know how to do it but just can't seem to DO IT!"

I know they are not alone in this. I know because, myself included, experiences this crazy mindset so often in life. It's like your head and your heart are competing with each other. It's a crazy game and can so often lead to exhaustion and disappointment when we feel we are letting ourselves down by not following through with our good intentions.

In my coaching sessions we often talk about the concept of a goal beyond a goal. "I want to loose weight"  Ok, but why?  What will that outcome bring to your life above and beyond the weight loss itself?  This takes the thought process to a whole new level, a deeply personal and long term level creating a total mind shift and ultimately setting the foundations for a new lifestyle.

It't not just about saying the words and acting on them. It simple doesn't work like that for the long term.

It's about understanding, believing and embracing those words with all your being on every level. Once you reach this point, you can master anything and you can create a new way to be.

 

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Mantra for Monday no. 120
 
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So many of the statements in this passage of text resonated with me. The fundamental teachings seek to remind us that we are a mirror to the world, and those around us act as a mirror for ourselves. 

In order to recognise something, to conceive of an idea, to dream a dream in vivid technicolour... we must come to realise that it is possible.  

It also teachers us to feel deeply, open our heart and minds and give our wholeselves in order to truly find ourselves.

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Mantra for Monday no. 119
 

I've been thinking about the senses a lot recently. 

I find that things have most meaning for me when they are 'felt' in both body and mind. Not simply reading words on a page or watching pictures flickering across a TV screen but truly understood within the heart and mind. 

This is what I seek to do with my coaching... within the coaching experience itself. A space to sound out ideas and express emotions of course, but also to 'taste' new foods, 'create' new recipes, 'share' new experiences, 'listen' to the silence, 'see' the world through fresh eyes. 

True happiness is a feeling. It cannot be summed up with words. In changing your life you need to change your relationship to yourself and with the world around you, and a relationship based on deep feeling will always be the one that lasts the test of time.

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Mantra for Monday no. 118
 

As a single lady, someone recently said to me:

"you'll never find a guy who is perfect you know, I think you might need to lower your expectations."

These words were gently spoken and they meant this out of kindness, and though I appreciated the intention it made me think.

I am not seeking perfection.

I also came to the understanding that there is a huge difference between someone being perfect and someone being perfect for you. 

Perfection would be boring, perfection implies that there is nothing greater than can be achieved, no learning, and no growth. 

For me life is all about learning and growth. Life is about discovering who you are every minute, every day every month and every year. Life is not about seeking perfection but in understanding who you are and what makes you come alive. In that process failure is inevitable, failure is what enables us to strive to find our true selves, it allows us to be honest and true and find deep love in the imperfections of those around us.

It is those imperfections, the quirks, the failures, the achievements and the unique identities that ultimately come together to create that perfect whole in both ourselves and others.

For me, a life built through layers of imperfection will be just perfect, thanks.

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Mantra for Monday no. 117
 

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Mantra for Monday no. 116
 

I've been told by many people over the course of the last few months I 'give' too much away for free. They may be right. There are some things I need to work on.

But there is a reason for my giving, for my need to help, for my desire to 'lift' people around me to reach the place I know they have the capacity to be.

...time, food, knowledge, company, advice, inspiration....

It makes me happy. It makes me fulfilled with a sense of purpose. It helps me rise. 

Seeing those 'aha' moments light up in someone's eyes. Receiving an early morning text message of thanks after someone has awoken full of renewed positivity for life.

In lifting others we will always lift ourselves.

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Mantra for Monday no. 115
 

Mindful living is something I am striving for.

I still really struggle with the practice of meditation, but a sense mindful living is something I try and tap into as often as I can. 

I have varying levels of success. I am a work in progress. I'm ok with that.

Life is but a series of moments. Moments are continual, fragile and fleeting and as such the greatest gift to our lives. Yet we all to often take our moments for granted and spend our energy on the past and the future; analysing what came before and anticipating what might be yet to come. Instead inject you energy into the 'now', appreciate each moment what what it has to offer, the opportunities it brings and the decisions you take that lead you forward. 

If you live by the moment, the past and the future take good care of themselves.

p.s if you ever have a chance to listen to a talk by Arianna Huffington, do it. Wise words.

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Mantra for Monday no. 114
 

This harks back to the idea of giving all you have to the task or the moment, the thought or the experience in hand.

Every day we spend mindless hours multi-tasking our way through life. Our senses muted and burnt out. I'm slowly learning to change, but some days I am just as bad an any one else, maybe even worse... 

...typing away on my laptop with the TV or radio on in the background. Eating lunch whilst flicking through social media or adding the photo of said lunch to Instagram. Going to bed late and getting up early and instead of spending those first few minutes of the day awash with gratitude we reach for our phone not to simply check the time or turn off the alarm, but to see 'what we've missed' overnight.

Instead of listening to others and fully embracing the conversation, we nod and smile and wait for a moment in which we can offer a reply. Not listening for it's own sense of beauty and freedom. Not really hearing what is being said.

We travel a 2 minute journey by car in a perpetual rush... instead of allowing for the 15 minute walk and time spent outside. Time to be on our own or with others. Moving our body, with nature, with the elements.

Our conversations and our emotions are all so often censored and dulled, we know exactly what to expect and the anticipation and our sense of childlike wonder has far faded away in the monotony of predictable daily routine.

Take a step back.

Put down the phone.

Look your companion in the eyes.

Say what it is your heart is feeling.

Breathe deep into your lungs and feel the air rush free.

Make a spontaneous decision once in a while.

Stand outside arms outstretched to the sky.

Observe. Simply observe.

We are alive, and the world around is alive and quietly waiting to celebrate our existence. 

 

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Mantra for Monday. no. 113
 

Last weekend I was listening to some of the 'Revitalize' lectures hosted by Mind Body Green and this quote particularly stood out to me.  It harks back to procrastination and the sense of being 'scared' to put yourself out there.

I know for me I often go round in circles in my mind... holding back but then being annoyed at myself for holding back... resulting in holding back even more because 'i'm not good enough',

In Rich Roll's words, 'mood follows action not the other way around'. You must take the action in spite of how you feel.

This creates the mind shift of growth. 

Let's do this!

 

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Mantra for Monday no. 112
 

A couple of weeks ago I had a catch up with a new friend on who thinks a lot like me. She acted like a mirror and questioned back to me my own fears and self doubt- why are they there? I couldn’t really answer that.  Anyway I must have subconsciously been having a reflective weekend as I randomly wrote this poem late on a Saturday night after a quote I happened to see (the first line is actually the quote by Jessica Ortner from her new book The Tapping Solution for Weight Loss & Body Confidence). 

The poem isn't specifically about me, but the negative self talk we all tend to give ourselves at times in whatever aspect of our lives. Negative self talk is a destructive process and slows our progress in becoming our best selves. In your own moments of negativity, be mindful, be accepting and be loving to yourself. Be open to opportunities that you will never see if you mind is filled with negativity.

I hadn't originally planned to share it with you, it was written on a whim and I feel as though I'm baring my soul a little (but that in itself is a good thing). After encouragement to share it from another friend I showed it to, here it is.

I'd love to know how you feel in moments of negativity and what you do to help yourself change the mindset?

Have a beautiful week. xx

 

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