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I am a health and life coach. I work with people who have lost their mojo for life and want to access their innate creativity. The mindset blog is a space to reconnect with your inner world.

A 2014 reflection.... what my first year in business has taught me!

Wow... What. A. Year!!

At the beginning of this year I had big dreams and a huge amount of excited anticipation. But like so many dreams, it is only action that powers them forward into reality. It is the action part that is oh so scary and overwhelming!  

The difference with this last year is that for the first time ever I played full out and embraced the overwhelm. Oh man, there was a lot of it. I'm steel reeling if i'm honest and the entire year has been such a roller coaster of emotions. So many times I said to myself "why couldn't I just be content with a regular job"  but in the moments of the highs and when I look back and see just how far I've come, I really have no regrets. 

A few big highlights from the year:

  • Wholeplus had it's first full year in business
  • A became a contributor to a number of great magazines I truly respect
  • I graduated from the Institute if Integrative Nutrition as a health coach 
  • I took on my very first coaching clients who continue to amaze me every day
  • I launched the '21 Day Lemon Water Challenge' with 400 participants

I would also like to say at this point, that so much of this may never have come to fruition in the way it has without the never-ending support of my family (I know I annoy the hell out of them at times- but I thank you!) but also another two key people in my life, who exist largely behind the scenes but are amazing in enabling me to be the person I am today...

My business coach, Erica has worked with me throughout this entire year. She has been there right from the very start (before I even realised I needed a coach) and grounds me yet pushes me beyond my comfort zone, all the while pushing her own personal boundaries. They say every good coach needs their own coach, and I whole heartedly agree with this statement!

My personal trainer, Toby. Fitness is a huge part of my life. It has come to be even more so this last year as it is my 'down time' and an escape from my own head at times! Toby deserves extra kudos for putting up with numerous floopy moments and tears of frustration when I rock up to a session after a stressful morning.  He had been a great support during both my highs and lows and also shares my plant based food philosophy... we have shared so many hours of interesting debates over the least 12 months and so here's hoping for 12 more!

A few things this year has taught me:

  • There are some truly amazing genuine people out there!  In exploring who I really am and taking my business to the next level, I have come into contact with some genuine and amazing people and companies. Above and beyond Erica and Toby, it has affirmed my belief that so people are there to help each other and not simply out for themselves. One of my biggest concerns going into 'business' is that I can be very naive, too nice and very honest. Right back at the beginning a few people told me that I wasn't cut out for business and that I would hate it, but I have proved them wrong. Yes, I might pour too much emotion what I do and yes I might get hurt somewhere along the line. But I honesty woudn't have it any other way!
  • I need to be more organised! I am a creative on all levels. I think in colour, texture and shapes, I enjoy the random places my mind wanders, I never sit still, I love creating cakes with perculiar ingredients profiles, I like designing, I like asking questions and exploring answers BUT I do not like spreadsheets, business plans, tax returns, systems or anything remotely regimented. The more creative I have become, the more my brain seems to move away from that other side of things.  I need to get better (simple) systems in place for 2015... and address my areas of weakness!
  • I need to put myself first! In throwing my self into business I focussed on working so hard my personal health has suffered. As much as I know (and preach) that self care and relaxation time is so intrinsically important in everyday life, I have struggled to implement this myself. It was as if I hadn't 'earned the right' to relax even though I know that's ridiculous. I have taken some time out this Christmas and will be on a mission in 2015 to balance both areas of my life. No doubt this will be the focus of my blog from time to time.

"Life is a constant journey of discovery. One I never want to stop" 

Do you remember this post from August, when I had just finished my final module with IIN?  I posted a quote which I still resonate so much with.  Here is is again.

 

May 2015 be an incredible year for you all.

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Special offer...End-Of-Year Empowerment Session!

It's at this time of year many of my friends and clients get a little anxious, worried the festive season will 'undo' all their hard work, or catch them off guard so they are unable to resist the seasonal temptations coming from all angles. I know the feeling i've totally been there.

Does this sound like you? 

Do you want to feel empowered and in control this Christmas and gain tips to take you in the New Year and beyond?

Are you curious about coaching but not sure about committing to a programme?

This supercharge intensive session offers you a one-off 2 hour one-to-one personalised coaching session, plus a collection of my ebooks with tips and recipe resources. This is the ultimate kickstart to your health and wellness… why wait until january to plan new years resolutions when you can gain support to take you health into your own hands... RIGHT NOW!

Let’s do this! 

This year I've had some many people emailing me for tips and suggestions I thought i'd put the offer out there for you all and create an intensive session to help empower your own life! No matter where you are in the world this offer is open to you, we can Skype... and if you are local we can also get together face to face!

Limited offer and highly limited spaces... you must get in touch before December 14th to book your session to be taken before Christmas!

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Mantra for Monday no. 124

 

I love videos, podcasts, books and lectures that make you think. Really make you think. Things that turn your perspective on their head and help you question the status quo and consider that just because thing are the way they are doesn't mean that need to be or even should be.

I don't need 'answers', questions provide me with all I need to 'know'. They create the journey of discovery.

This video may not be for everyone, but it holds powerful messages over the nature of human thought and actions as a predetermined pattern of behaviour that makes life simpler. Maybe there is no rational thought at all.

The right path to being a happy, healthy person is to do all the s**t we already know we are supposed to do, becoming the most evolved person you have the capacity to be. Everybody makes their own path through this world, but most people don't follow that path there are most deeply drawn to.

In the end, just do the most you can.

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Silent Sunday no. 124

 
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The first step to healing is acknowledgment

Today post is a little different.

It's from the heart. Wait, no scrap that, I always write from the heart offering you insights and recipes that I have learned, experienced and created with you in mind. But more recently I have also tried to offer you more honesty, to share my own vulnerabilities so that you feel able to share you own and we can learn and grow through life together. 

Life can thrown me a curve ball these last few weeks and has created a huge reality check in my life.

It's been a little quiet on this page this last week as I've had so much going on in the background with Wholeplus... new food processors, bigger orders, steep learning curves...ore on all this very soon!

But as well as that an unexpected reality check has stopped me in my tracks. 

My dad retired from him job a few weeks ago. He had been a teacher working long exhausting hours, with inadequate sleep for the past few decades. Without realising it he had been running on a constant 'fight or flight' mode to fuel the long hours and constant demands on his attention time and attention.  

When he stopped running, his body couldn't. The adrenaline that once had an outlet no longer has a place in to vent and as a result full blown anxiety has resulted, the symptoms and root cause of which will take time to heal. It's so hard seeing him like this and of course I am doing what I can to support by way of diet, supplements and company (he eats a clean vegan diet like me anyway).

However the thing that I have found hardest is the mirror it holds to my own life. I know that my balance between my 'primary and secondary' foods needs work, I just didn't realise to what extent.  From a food and fitness perspective I feel pretty sorted, I am happy with where I am and feel I have a lot of offer to help others find their own niche.  BUT when it comes to 'primary foods' which are the aspects of life that aren't nutritionally based... the parts of your life that make up the biggest part of your day and the parts that directly feed into your emotional wellbeing, for me they still need a lot of work.

I think this is the same for a lot of people. It is very easy to address the physical problems with physical things. I need to lose weight "go on a diet", I need to get fit "try these exercises", I need to stop drinking alcohol "try this instead". It is also very easy to gloss over the impact of our mental health and undervalue the extent to whilst it infiltrates all aspects of our lives, including to a huge extent our nutritional struggles. The physical problems are often not treatable by a 'physical answer'. Very often we not what we need to do and the get frustrated when we just can't seems to do it. There are reasons beyond food that mean people struggle to loose weight and overcome cravings. This is where out attention should be focussed.

I have talked before how I am 'a work in progress' as I think we all are, all out lives. We are always growing, learning and exploring and the more aware of this process we are, sometimes the more overwhelming it can feel, particularly at first or without support. There is often relief in the notion of 'ignorance is bliss' but ignorance is not a place of growth or of reaching your potential.

Going forward I am prioritising work on my own 'primary foods'. I am not sure how yet but in reflecting now in this moment I can already pinpoint a few key areas to begin taking small steps towards. For example I am always running two minutes late for everything, as i'm rushing to my appointment or my gym class I can literally feel the adrenaline surging through my veins. This is not a good thing, and with the huge wake up call in my dad's symptoms I realise now how important it is to gain control of these aspects of my life. Its not something I will be able to do on my own, support from friends and family will be key to keep me on track.

The first step to healing is acknowledgement. By that I mean true, deep, committed acknowledgement. Accept yourself where are right now, that’s your start point. If you have been nodding your head as you've been reading this post, and saying half-heartedly yeah I know I need to deal with this too. Take a few minutes to stop and think. How committed are you to changing your life? It won't be easy as the depths of our mental and emotional wellness are intangible, often difficult to describe or understand, it also run deep within us and in moving from the state of ignorance to acknowledgement can often create a sense of feeling worse before feeling better. 

If you are ready, then so am I.  

When the time is right for you I am here to support your own wellness journey every step of the way. Drop me an email here if you want a complimentary chat, to vent or simply some reassurance. Whatever you do, know that you can do this but also know you don't have to do it alone.


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Mantra for Monday no. 123

 

Two things were on my mind as I wrote today's 'Mantra'.

Firstly the quote itself which is taken from one of my current favourite authors and poets whose book 'Chases of the Light'  I recently bought. Poems written on scraps of otherwise throwaway paper somehow seem so poignant.

Secondly I have been doing a lot of research, reading and self reflection in the field of self sabotage, the fear of success and the fear of failure. Such an intriguing topic for me and something with which so many of us struggle. Therefore these questions seemed particularly fitting and today I thought I'd put them out there for you to consider too.

Often I find it helps to flip things on their head and consider from an objective point of view what really would be the worst case scenario in any seemingly 'fearful' situation. More often than not the worst case scenario, whilst it maybe uncomfortable or inconvenient is actually not that big a deal in the general scheme of things, and also when assessed against the potential for the positivity which we would otherwise never allow to flourish.  

Once we know and understand that worst case scenario, the fear of taking the leap or forging ahead into the unknown loses its power over us and actually becomes part of the exciting adventure.

Trust your heart and trust your wings.

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’End-of-The-Year Supercharge Intensive Health Coaching'

We're into the final quarter of 2014 and I’m celebrating the final 3 months of the year by setting myself a few new challenges in my own life. As a coach I constantly seek to better myself both physically and mentally, so that ultimately I can better serve you… life is an exploration after all!

To mark this journey of discovery I want to offer you the chance to coach with me and supercharge your life and health. Many of my clients as well as many others I speak to, really want health coaching but are hesitant about committing to a full programme, as such i've have many requests for a ‘short course’ intensive option. 

Well now I have just that…

A one-off special ’End-of-The-Year Supercharge Intensive’ to be completed between now and the end of 2014. This supercharge intensive programme offers you 4x 1-1 personalised coaching sessions including a future focus strategy session, plus a number of ebooks with tips and recipe resources and unlimited email support in between sessions. 

Seriously...this is the ultimate kickstart to your health and wellness… why wait until january to plan your new years resolutions when you can get support to take your health into your own hands RIGHT NOW!

Excited to find out more?

Get in touch here for a totally complimentary 30 minute Discovery Consultation to get a feel for how we’d work together and a boost of positivity!

“Coaching is about creating an action plan that moves you forward from where you are from where you want to be”


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Mantra for Monday no. 122

 

I've been readinthe work of Steve Chandler, the way he coaches and the metaphors and imagery he allows me to create in my mind really resonates with me. This particular quote by spiritual leader Ravi Shankar was one that Steve himself is quoted in Time Warrior and I love the lyrical quality it offers to such intangible qualities in our live. In visualising sound, movement, mind and life I'm able to give them a sense of place and understanding in my own minds eye so much more clearly.

The greatest opportunity for success in life, in whatever form it make take, is through stretch. Slow down and stop straining against fear but work with it and embrace it… stretch for the joy of stretching. 

 

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Self Sabotage... a personal post and a challenge!

 

I was going to give you a recipe today but I decided that could wait until tomorrow and instead I offer you something a little different. Something to consider and think about a while. A challenge of your own if you decide to accept it.

I lay in bed last night thinking about this idea in those moments before sleep engulfed me and so this morning it seemed only fitting to type it up as a blog post for you.

This is a personal post about self sabotage. But not necessarily in the ways you may have first thought. I have lots more thoughts and ideas on this topic as it something I resonate with so passionately and is top of my own ‘self coaching’ agenda. Being a fast paced girl with high expectations of herself in the throes of creating a multi-faceted business and battling daily overwhelm; the reality of self sabotage is never too far away.

Self sabotage can manifest itself in so many forms, and with many of my coaching clients and friends this might be in the form of giving into food cravings or not allowing yourself to stick to the healthy eating plan that you know you want to. Or it may be in the work environment when you may feel you are ‘not good enough’ for the promotion you desperately want and sabotage your own efforts to get there.

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Today I want to expose a little vulnerability and share you my own self sabotage in the form of… sleep deprivation!

Whilst I’d been aware of the fact that I tend to sabotage my own dietary habits by way of eating too many dried dates or peanut butter (random I know but just go with me on that) largely as an escape from overwhelm… what I hadn't been aware of with such clarity until yesterday was how sleep factored into the scheme of things.

For a good few months now I've been trying to tweak my day such that I get up earlier and go to bed earlier with the knowledge that I'm much more productive first thing in the morning and love the positive mentality of ‘getting a good start on the day’ than if I try and do that same proportion of work late evening once I'm getting tired.  I even wrote about that here last year!

This seems very sensible in reality. However…

What has been happening was that after finishing my evening meal at a time where I should be thinking of winding down for the night and maybe reading a little before going to bed at a reasonable time, my mind goes into overdrive and overwhelm kicks in with a warped sense of not being good enough and not trying hard enough. The result would then be that I would continue to ‘work’ for two or three more hours through till around midnight and yet still expect that I should be up bright and breezy, so I’d set my alarm for 5:30 or 6:00 the next morning. I’d then be caught up in a repeat of the same mindset, hit with the same overwhelm and the same heightened need to be ‘busy’, ultimately leading to huge bouts of procrastination… It’s a vicious circle that’s been playing itself over a few months now, except until yesterday I had not realise to what extent it truly impacted my life.

It is not so much the lack of sleep that is the problem (I often snooze in a restless sleep after the alarm goes off) …it is more the mentality surrounding it. It’s as if I don’t deserve to have enough sleep. I tell myself I haven’t worked hard enough to have earned the privilege! Yes I know now that sounds totally crazy as I write this but until this moment, until the point of first verbalising it to a friend yesterday and writing it here in black and white this morning, it continued to take hold within my life.

Once I did get going in the morning, it would typically be later than I’d planned (7:00am instead of 5:30am) so my mind was already berating me for being ‘lazy’, or focussing on my having ‘lost the best part of the day’. Before I’d even opened a book or my laptop overwhelm and frustration was already clawing at the mental fabric of my day… leading me to more escapism through procrastination.

I now feel this mindset surrounding my sleep has had the biggest impact on my rising levels of frustration and overwhelm and as a result create the negative side effects of procrastination, productivity and eating mindlessly amongst other things...

As I write this, there are exactly three months until Christmas and I have given myself a challenge.

Starting today I am committed to changing my attitude towards using sleep as ‘reward’ and focussing on cultivating an earlier bedtime routine filled with a mindset of self care. I know this has the potential to create huge positive impact in my life and I’m excited to see where this leads.


If you are still reading this, thank you. If you identify with ‘self sabotage' on some form within your own life then I hope you have found some support and encouragement within these words.

So much change occurs when we allow ourselves to expose our vulnerabilites and become truly honest with ourselves. Write it down, say it out loud, share with others….reach out to me to support you. I am here for you. Always.

Share your thoughts and your challenge with me in the comments, on my Facebook page, in a private message, a complimentary coaching session or simply be mindful of creating a small change in your own life.

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Mantra for Monday no. 121

 

So must truth in this statement. 

With many of my clients, I often hear frustrated statements along the lines of: "I know that I should (insert most appropriate) ...loose weight/stop smoking/get fit/eat more veg/drink more water" and I know how to do it but just can't seem to DO IT!"

I know they are not alone in this. I know because, myself included, experiences this crazy mindset so often in life. It's like your head and your heart are competing with each other. It's a crazy game and can so often lead to exhaustion and disappointment when we feel we are letting ourselves down by not following through with our good intentions.

In my coaching sessions we often talk about the concept of a goal beyond a goal. "I want to loose weight"  Ok, but why?  What will that outcome bring to your life above and beyond the weight loss itself?  This takes the thought process to a whole new level, a deeply personal and long term level creating a total mind shift and ultimately setting the foundations for a new lifestyle.

It't not just about saying the words and acting on them. It simple doesn't work like that for the long term.

It's about understanding, believing and embracing those words with all your being on every level. Once you reach this point, you can master anything and you can create a new way to be.

 

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Silent Sunday no. 121

 
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Mantra for Monday no. 120

 
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So many of the statements in this passage of text resonated with me. The fundamental teachings seek to remind us that we are a mirror to the world, and those around us act as a mirror for ourselves. 

In order to recognise something, to conceive of an idea, to dream a dream in vivid technicolour... we must come to realise that it is possible.  

It also teachers us to feel deeply, open our heart and minds and give our wholeselves in order to truly find ourselves.

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Silent Sunday no. 120

 
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Mantra for Monday no. 119

 

I've been thinking about the senses a lot recently. 

I find that things have most meaning for me when they are 'felt' in both body and mind. Not simply reading words on a page or watching pictures flickering across a TV screen but truly understood within the heart and mind. 

This is what I seek to do with my coaching... within the coaching experience itself. A space to sound out ideas and express emotions of course, but also to 'taste' new foods, 'create' new recipes, 'share' new experiences, 'listen' to the silence, 'see' the world through fresh eyes. 

True happiness is a feeling. It cannot be summed up with words. In changing your life you need to change your relationship to yourself and with the world around you, and a relationship based on deep feeling will always be the one that lasts the test of time.

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Silent Sunday no. 119

 
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The end... and a new beginning!

On Tuesday as I completed my final module and the final test which completes my health coaching programme with the Institute of Integrative Nutrition. It was a moment of mixed emotion. I have become so familiar with the routine of a new module released each Monday lunchtime for the last 11 months, and the structure and 'comfort' in being guided along the road to becoming a health coach... and suddenly it all came to an end. It's me now... this is where the real learning begins. There are a few final weeks of admin time before I receive my formal certification but to all intents and purposes I am now a certified health coach!

This passage was taken from one of our final lectures and it really resonated with me. 

Do you ever get the feeling you are on a flying trapeze, soaring from one bar to the next from past to future? Embrace the transition. Learn to find your wings.

As I completed my final test and then sat on my bed breathing deeply and sitting quietly for a moment. I wrote this post on my personal Facebook page. I'll share it with you here:

 

Today I feel as though a new chapter is just beginning in my life!  

Today I completed the final test for the my health coaching course with a score of 100%. Over this last year as I have been a student with the Institute for Integrative Nutrition my mind has grown and changed so much, both in my understanding of who I am and most importantly in the ways in which I can use my skills in reaching out to help others. Including Cake is not simply the little recipe blog I began as a hobby almost three years ago, but has a become a gateway to wellness for all those who want to take the next step.

I have 1-1 coaching clients who inspire me everyday, my hand-written specialist coaching programmes are coming together really to roll come September (watch this space!), I have built new, inspiring and supportive relationships in both my friendships and business, I have written ebooks and articles...with some big publications set to feature me over the next few months (it will stay a secret for now).  There is potential huge news on the horizon with my Wholeplus food business (huge meeting is happening at the end of this month) and the most importent thing... I finally feel as though i've found my calling in life! 

It will take hard work, I will still have so many days when I feel as though I am going round in circles, I will question everything all over again. But it is in questioning everything that we move forward, break the old habits and thought patterns that no longer serve us and find happiness in creating the life we know we have within us.

Life is a constant journey of discovery. One I never want to stop. 

 

The future holds many exciting things, but most of all I want to take a moment to say thank you... thank you to you my loyal readers who continue to support me as my blog and website as a whole has grown and evolved, and will continue to do so, as we all do in our lives. I hope you continue to come here for many months and years to come and find inspiration in my photos, words and recipes. If you ever need anything more... a conversation or a little help within your own life... just reach out. You know I am always here to catch you.

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Mantra for Monday no. 118

 

As a single lady, someone recently said to me:

"you'll never find a guy who is perfect you know, I think you might need to lower your expectations."

These words were gently spoken and they meant this out of kindness, and though I appreciated the intention it made me think.

I am not seeking perfection.

I also came to the understanding that there is a huge difference between someone being perfect and someone being perfect for you. 

Perfection would be boring, perfection implies that there is nothing greater than can be achieved, no learning, and no growth. 

For me life is all about learning and growth. Life is about discovering who you are every minute, every day every month and every year. Life is not about seeking perfection but in understanding who you are and what makes you come alive. In that process failure is inevitable, failure is what enables us to strive to find our true selves, it allows us to be honest and true and find deep love in the imperfections of those around us.

It is those imperfections, the quirks, the failures, the achievements and the unique identities that ultimately come together to create that perfect whole in both ourselves and others.

For me, a life built through layers of imperfection will be just perfect, thanks.

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Silent Sunday no. 118

 
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