Mindset Blog

I am a health and life coach. I work with people who have lost their mojo for life and want to access their innate creativity. The mindset blog is a space to reconnect with your inner world.

What 2015 shifted within me... and what 2016 has in store!

Day 365… just putting the finishing touches to another chapter. Anticipating the blank fresh page arriving tomorrow.

What has 2015 meant for you? What has it taught you in your life?

For me, it has been a journey of intense inner growth. It wasn’t necessarily planned or anticipated, but I was open to the lessons life had in store. A willing student.

2015 has seen me lean into my edge as never before, step so far of my comfort zone that at times I was overwhelmed with anxiety and could not see a path beyond. For the first time I pushed through those feelings, victorious and hugely proud of my retreat creation. Hugely proud of my first solo trip aboard, hugely proud of my new found friendships and teachers that showed up just when I needed them most, when my heart was ready for them.

Most of all this year has been about magic. Opening up my heart to the possibilities and letting go of the voice of safety in my head. Serving others so powerfully and through them ultimately serving myself. 

Where your focus goes the energy flows, and I have witnessed magic as a snowball… growing ever more powerful as it builds momentum. No longer do I shrug off events as mere coincidences but instead I appreciate and awe at the universe aligning with my intentions, putting me on a path so perfect yet so previously unknown. Intention is everything.

It has be a year of massive spiritual shift for me. I came out from behind my computer screen and began to create physical space for others to experience the power of mind-body connection. I recognised that I was not perfect, but nor did I need to be. I got curious and learnt to question everything and enjoy the journey without needing to understand the destination. I embraced the power of vulnerability and it’s deep connection with allowing others to reveal their vulnerability too. 

This year has clarified and strengthened my offering as a coach. This year has led me to people I would love to work with more and given me a greater understanding for seeing in clients those who are ‘a 10 for me’. Seeing the potential within. That curious spark. I will work with no-one less.

What will 2016 bring? Where will my intentions rest this coming year?

I want to create more magic- magic come from ‘being’ so much more than ‘doing'- being happens much more powerfully when surrounding by others creating a container for that experience.

I now deeply understand the power of ‘experiences’ and will strive to create more of those in as many ways as possible for as many people as possible throughout 2016. I have a few ideas but there is still so much unknown and I trust the universe that what will be is exactly what needs to be.

Above all else, I appreciate your continued support on this journey. It's a journey that is truly never ending and if I have helped serve you in any way at all this year, I would love for you to get in touch and let me know. Let me know how I could better serve you, or if you would like to have a conversation.  When I say I am there for you to help you shift perspective, get curious and live your optimum life, I truly mean it from the bottom of my heart. It is my deep wish that my own journey may, in some small way, resonate with and help inspire yours.

My wish for you in 2016 is that you question everything and always be curious.

 

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Let go and surrender...

This time next week I will have woken up to greet the first full day of my retreat, embraced warm hugs with my wonderful group of wholehearted people ready to embrace the universe and themselves, having just taken part in our first poolside ashtanga yoga class in the sunshine and now be finishing a hearty wholesome breakfast together to prepare for exploring the island.

There were many thoughts tripping over themselves in my head as I lay in bed this morning, I could feel bubbles of anxiety welling up with me and knew to diffuse things that I needed to try and put them down on paper, which turned into this blog post! 

The preparation for Lanzarote of the last five month has pushed me to the edge of my comfort zone. So many times I've had to lean in to that point just beyond, a place where it gets uncomfortable. The place that has had me in desperate tears and an anxious knot in my stomach on multiple occasions. The place that has had me breaking down in frustration (always at myself) in the presence of my ever patient coach, who reflects my greatness back to me when I don't believe in it myself.

Yet over these last couple of weeks as all the technicalities have fallen into place, a different mindset crept over me. One that feels all together unfamiliar and actually hugely liberating. 

It's the feeling of surrender, of trusting the universe, of knowing there is only so much I can plan for and that in actual fact the beauty is in the unknown, the organic growth and coming together of a group of beautiful people in a beautiful setting. 

My default nature, particularly in the past and one I'm now very aware of, is a rigid militant approach to life. I have always felt the need to 'prove' myself, to be doing doing doing, always be busy, to write lists and stick post-its it's everywhere, make sure I have an option for every possible eventuality... 

But this is not where the beauty of life lies...

With a rigid, militant approach we are blinkered to what the universe may throw in our path, opportunities may come up and we simply won't see them. Over the last five months I've begun to change and shift within. I have been listening to my heart more than my head, it speaks softly and quietly but oh so much more powerfully and deeply.

Tuning into my heart is a huge work in progress for me, decades of my head over-ruling it won't be changed over night. But I'm learning, I'm learning to surrender.

Lanzarote has so much more to teach me. I'm ready. 
 

Have a amazingly beautiful week... I'll check in with excitement from Lanzarote soon. I can't wait to share my adventures with you!

 

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Rest is best and harmony heals

Yesterday I went to a meditation workshop held by Sandy Newbigging, the focus was the concepts held within his new book ‘Body Calm’ which struck a chord with me because that’s exactly what I’m working on in my own life right now… Calming my body and optimising my mind-body connection!

I scribbled lots of notes in my notebook as the day went on and so wanted to extract some of the key points here, in part so that I can reflect on them and better utilise them in my own life and work, but also so that you may be able to benefit from his teaching too. The notes below are more like a series of bullet pointed concepts, some ideas to sit with and mull over. Hopefully one or two may help create curiosity and mind shifts for you in your own life.

I had already bought his new book Body Calm as a previous event a few weeks ago, and so for the purpose of this blog post I got a cheesy selfie… yay! :-)

 
 

Our bodies are not against us- they our teachers sending us messages. Once we acknowledge this, it is a hugely power and powerful mindset!

‘Rest is best and harmony heals’. Stress is the result of there being disharmony within your mind body soul and life. Central to Body Calm is the invitation to rest in your conscious awareness.

Body Calm begins with mind calm, and mind calm begins with knowing who you really are. Your ‘Self’. The mind is temporary and constantly changing, if we focus on this we run into problems. Our awareness is the unchanging part. Our Self

Problems come when we are ‘feeling our thinking’, external factors don’t cause a negative feelings. Our own relationship to those feelings does.

Peace is not the absence of emotion- peace can exist with any emotion through our awareness of Self. Here co-existence of peace and emotion is always possible regardless of the emotion we are experiencing. When we are suffering, we have dropped ‘into’ the emotion and have left the state of ‘observing’ the emotion. 

I personally love that point above! The awareness (Self) is only ever in the NOW, all thoughts of past and future can never be present. 

You have the initial reaction then typically you have the ‘dwelling’- it’s the dwelling that causes the stress and the suffering and that’s what we want to reduce. Regardless of the gravity of the emotion itself, when it’s happening in the now it doesn’t cause stress, it simply is ‘happening’. 

GAAW0 = gently alert awareness wide open. This is the fundamental concept of Sandy’s meditation technique to engage the Self, we can do this with eyes open or closed, gazing forwards yet being aware of the greater environment.

Virtues are like ‘iclouds’ above our heads. When we engage in GAAWO, we are aware of the conflict and emotion and so are in a position to be able to download the virtue we need more of e.g feeling frustration offers us the virtue of patience and we need to actively Choose to bring this in (or another virtue need more of in that scenario).

We often live through a series of thoughts, not in the present and not ‘fully and completely’. Fully and completely is Sandy’s definition of life. Life happens on a spectrum of all possibilities. We tend to want to hang out on the positive end of the spectrum, yet that is not living a full human experience, we need to be able to willing and able to live life right across the spectrum.

Stress is not the cause because stress is caused by something- it is not the source. Inner conflict is the cause- that requires two opposing forces, the attachment and the resistance. We get caught in the middle of the push-pull dynamic, we resist what’s happening because we attached to something that we want to be happening instead. Stress is not caused by your circumstances, it is caused by resistance to the circumstances. When we keep focusing on it, it persists.

I AM not my EMOTIONS. I simply HAVE emotions. 

I AM is permanent and unchanging- the Self, yet EMOTIONS are transitory and when we reflect back we can always think of a time in our lives that we haven’t felt that emotion.

Emotions = energy, and we need energy to create and heal. To optimise our life. The more emotions we have the better.

Emotion = energy in motion!

I love this symbol of energy in motion, from the whole workshop this was the concept that spoke to me most profoundly, I often find myself bouncing from the highs to the lows, full of overwhelm and anxiety. Resisting that overwhelming is not embracing and trusting it for it’s power to create and heal and allow me to travel that journey of becoming my highest self. It’s the resistance that hinders this progress, the resistance that creates the struggle and the stress. not the energy itself. Game changer!

We are born with only two fears-falling and loud noises. Everything else is learned, labelled and conditioned. As humans we tend to apply labels to everything. But we could benefit more from understanding what this emotion feels like within our body, how it manifests, that it is a transient messenger… before simply labelling it and putting it aside. 

When you feel an emotion, recognise it and respond as a welcoming sign of growth and healing. “Hello energy, thank you for passing through, feel free to hang out as long as you need to.”

Life is happening to invite us to wake up consciousness- nothing comes along to hurt you but to wake you up and help you grow. Knowing this ultimately means that what your experience is less important than your relationship with it.

With the right attitude, you can use all that happens to you as an invitation to step up, wake up, and fully show up.

 
 

i'd love to hear your thoughts on these concepts, how you feel about your own relationship between your body and mind, and your awareness of the inner 'Self'? If you are super curious… Get in touch and let's arrange some time to chat about it!

 

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Sleep your way to the top...

 
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I was listening to a talk by Ariana Huffington (The Huffington Post) last week, and so many of her thoughts held so much truth for me. I greatly admire the journey she's been on and the way she shows up in the world to enable others to break out of destructive cycles they might be going through. I guess this is why I resonate with her.

One of her keystone habits when she began her transition back from burn out, was to increase her sleep from 4 to 5 hours per night to 7 to 8 hours per night.

She says the greatest piece advice she can give anybody, is the knowledge that you can literally 'sleep your way to the top’.

She states that success in her life endeavours would not have been possible it were not for these simple changes she brought about. In addition, she says that by increasing her sleep by three hours a day, she actually had more time not less, as she was more efficient, more productive and made less mistakes then if she had been functioning in a state of sleep deprivation.

She also used the example of a mobile phone...

We take more care of our smartphones then we do have our own bodies and minds.  Most of us know exactly how much battery we have left on our phones and when we get to less then 20% we start panicking and wondering how soon will be will to make it to the next charging station.  

Yet we never pay this attention to our bodies, we don't even realise how much charge we have left in us. Often this means we have zero charge left, yet still plough on ahead regardless, pushing when there is nothing left to give.

Allowing sleep and allowing space awakens our bodies and minds to the subtleties of life, it allows us to be in tune with our intuition to think steps ahead instead of firefighting problems as they arise. In doing so this puts us in a position of 'owner' and control instead of one of playing the victim. 

Overwhelm and anxiety has become a significant thing for me in recent months, yet I have noticed a few aspects in my life which can trigger the spiral of overwhelm onset.  The biggest of these is the absence of a simple but powerful morning routine. Underlying a powerful morning routine is good quality sleep. They say to make a significant change in your life it was begins with tiny steps, a single keystone change that can then have the ripple effect into creating others. 

I am taking a note out with Ariana's book and listening to my body instead of listening to the voice in my head that tries to tell me that 'I'm not a enough' and that I have more to get done before I have ‘permission' to go to bed.  

This also aligns with research that indicates that 'one hour before midnight is worth two after’. The earlier the better. This sets me up for the potential of a great day ahead. Every day.

The small change to go to bed one hour earlier each night started just over a week ago, and for the first time ever I have been able to honour that change (most nights) and override the inner voice. I have also changed aspects of gym routine, which I'll touch on another time, that has helped as it has removed super early starts. P.s I tried this many times before... I even set this challenge yet this time it feels different!

So far so good.... I'll keep you posted. I'm still working on the powerful morning routine. One step at a time!

Tell me, what is your relationship to sleep and a powerful morning routine?

 

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Overwhelm... When you hit the wall

Why is it that when you've had a few amazing weeks, or a run of pretty productive days and you're feeling like things are finally beginning to fall into place on an upward trajectory… Then BAM!!

You hit a wall. 

A wall of overwhelm, or self sabotage, or feeling as though you're going back to square one.

Incredibly frustrating, but let that feeling be comforted knowing you are not alone. I am totally there with you!

This is what happened to me last weekend. I took part in an amazing two-day coaching intensive. I met incredibly inspiring people, got vulnerable, opened my mind, found my voice and really made a contribution. I felt buoyed up and full of life, ready to rock my dreams and begin building on all the things I'd crystallised and created deep clarity around over the previous two days.

This sense of vibrancy is how I went to sleep on Sunday night, yet Monday morning I woke up and hit the wall. 

Why?

I have spent some time thinking about this over the last couple of days as I've begun to bring myself back in alignment. I reflected back on a talk I listened to by raw food coach Karen Knowler a few weeks back. She talked about vibrational energy and when you raise yourself up to a new energetic frequency, you need to upgrade your environment to match otherwise you will no longer sit comfortably within your environment and your mind will pull yourself back down to the old vibrational level. 

I totally get that this idea is going to be too ‘woo woo’ for some, and i’ll freely admit that it's taken me a little while to get my head around but I think I'm beginning to understand what she was alluding to.

This is often what happens when we clean up our diets. It's not so much that we are too weak willed to maintain our new healthy habits, it could be simply that our vibrational energy no longer matches that of our surroundings and so therefore we longer comfortably fit on a cellular level.

So there are two potential outcomes- we upgrade our surroundings (by way of stimulus, friends, hobbies etc) to match our new frequency or sooner or later our mind will act to ’tip us off the wagon' to re-align ourselves with where you were before. 

For me this wall of overwhelm touches the idea of higher energy or new vibrational frequency. It also draws a close relationship to the 'clutter' in my mind. The more intense the frequency the most energetic space I need to create for it to do it’s thing. I'm simply not allowing for that at the moment, I have so much going on in my mind and my life (the busy but not necessarily productive conundrum!) that it is too cluttered and I and can be quickly feel claustrophobic, cabin fevered, overwhelmed and not sure what to do in any given moment. So it shuts down to redress the balance. An innate self-preservation tactic I guess.

It's my mind's way of telling me to slow down and create space for more magic.

I had a conversation with a new client last night and we touched on a few of these things which is probably why it’s more present in my mind this morning. We talked about self-care in moments of life when there seems to be so much going on. What is the baseline level of self-care but you could seek to maintain? Wow, this question is powerful for me too. Self care creates space. I'm looking at my baseline level of self-care this morning.

How can you serve yourself most powerfully when you hit the wall? I’d love to have a conversation with you about it.

 

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What is your WHY?

That was the question in the final workshop at Love Serve Create with David Taylor this weekend. A weekend of 'creating the extraordinary' with a powerful tribe.

Your 'why' is where you come from, why you show up the way you do on a deeply profound level. It doesn't necessarily relate to your job or career but more simply related to what you consider the most meaningful aspect of your life. So many of us are out of alignment with our 'why', many of us have never even asked ourselves that question or at least not allowed space to consider the answer. 

If you feel as though something is 'missing' that could be it. That's how I walked through my life for a long, long time.

@@When asked 'what do you do?' the common thought process is to consider the what and the how, yet what if we start with our 'why' and then allow the what and how to fall into place?@@ Simon Sinek has a great five minute video on this

What is my WHY? 

As part of David's game we each had a sheet of paper and spent an hour cutting, drawing, sticking, writing and thinking all about our 'why' and how we could best represent that visually. What came up for me was a total surprise since the first 20 minutes for me was spent staring around the room waiting for something to show up in my mind.

It got me thinking deeply yet openly and I'd love to share what came up for me and if you feel called to do so then I'd love to hear your 'why' too!

I want to create immersive environments with nutrition as the gateway for powerful personal experiences. I want to help you connect your body and mind through a sense of curiosity. Why? Because this is how I have evolved, this is the key to my own inner journey, this is what resonates deep within my own soul, this is how I see people step into their greatness and this is how I can most powerfully serve you. 

For my visual manifestation the sun facilitates the growth of the world. The sun is the source and energy radiates from it. The sun creates light and warmth, invites gratitude and 'immerses' the world lighting up it's true beauty. I want to harness the power of the sun.

One of my all time favourite quotes also came to mind as I created the 'artwork' and so it seemed fitting to write this within the centre. This quote says it all. Loving without judgement. Serving without expectation. Creating a powerful experience.

My wellness retreat in Lanzarote is a one-of-a-kind experience to deeply explore this with you and most deeply manifest my 'why'. My mind-body coaching spa sessions are created from this very same space and I'm so honoured and excited to be able to share this with you also. This is why I am also scared and overwhelmed. I dream big, but these big dreams need a voice and only together can we create that voice. 

I look forward to exploring my 'why' more and more in coming weeks, months and years. Who knows what will show up- my mind is wide open! 

Most importantly, in following my why I can support you in following yours.

 

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Busyness is laziness

 

I was listening to an incredibly inspiring interview between Jan Broders and Izzy Arkin just a few moments ago. The interview of itself was 90 minutes long yet this simple phrase and Izzy's thoughts surrounding it pulled my attention... "Busyness is laziness"

How many times do you say yes to things that you should say no to and fail set boundaries. How many times do you get in your own way when you get overwhelmed. How many things are you doing each day to simply fill gaps of time where you should be slowing down and creating space for living your truth.

Empty space is incredibly important. We are often too afraid to simply be with ourselves.

Hell yeah… this is me! 

I hold my hands high in vulnerable acknowledgement. 

For a long time I told myself: ‘I like to be busy’, ‘I can’t sit still’, ‘I always need to be doing something’, ‘I haven’t earnt the right for downtime’.

I kind of wore those phrases like a badge of honour, like something to be proud of. Like DOing more was BEing more.

If you are like me you may have spent so many hours and weeks and months and maybe even years trying to find what it is that resonates most with you deep inside, trying to furiously find your calling in life instead of slowing down and letting it find you. 

This was my life up until a couple of years ago when my calling crept up on me, it was a slow movement and something I didn’t acknowledge and recognise for a long time as it required stepping away from the norm and the rush of everyday living. 

I was too scared to acknowledge it.

Wow... even just saying that right there feels pretty profound to me. 

I’m still a huge work in progress as I really struggle with allowing myself not to be busy. Yet my work requires such huge personal development on a daily basis in order for me to show up most powerfully for my clients. Quite literally the more I do for me, the more I can do for you. This isn’t just isolated to me, to my work as a coach of any of those in the caring and healing industries.

We all have people in our lives to care for and serve and we can only do so most powerfully if we serve ourselves first. 

If your life feels a little bit out of sorts and if you find yourself filling the gaps of time because you are scared of the silence, scared of what might be found within those depths, be courageous... feel the fear and do it anyway. 

I am on my journey and I am there for you to take steps into yours should you feel called to share it with me. 

 

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The power in the pause

 
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Previously when I have considered the notion of a 'pause' it's been with reference to taking a step back, putting the brakes on rushing through life or a spot of meditation… However recently I discovered there was a powerful pause each of us makes, multiple times in every minute of every day without even knowing it, and the power it holds is entirely overlooked and under utilised.

We breathe in and we breathe out, we breathe in and we breathe out… This is a continuous process that we don't even have to think about. Our bodies regulate us on autopilot. Yet consciously being aware of our breath and more importantly how we then physically engage with it takes us into a new level.

The next time you breathe out notice what happens in that split second before you breath in, that moment where time seems to stand still, we float within our bodies before refilling our lungs with air. Next time you breathe out, at the end of the breath try extending that passive pause a little and see what it feels like.

This is the power of the pause.

I often enjoy this 'floating' timeless experience during my yoga classes but I had no understanding that spending time in the pause on a regular daily basis could create such huge internal benefits for our body systems. My recent butenko breathing session with Jen Tiller showed me otherwise.

Our bodies need a very precise balance of oxygen and carbon dioxide in the blood stream at all times. That delicate balance is easily upset and over time a process called the BOHR effect changes the PH of the whole system, reducing the rate of oxygen available to the cells. Breathing more actually makes it worse. The body is conditioned to breathe too much all the time as a result of the well-known fight or flight response becoming habitual.

At the core of the Buteyko method is a series of reduced-breathing exercises that focus on nasal-breathing, breath-holding and relaxation.  The ‘control pause’ at the end of the out breath is key to regulating our breathing and the all the potential health benefits this has been shown to be associated with. 

You can find more information about Jen Tiller’s butenko breathing sessions here and some more info about butenko breathing in general and the potential benefits to health and fitness here.

As ever I simply encourage you to get ‘curious’, for me understanding the power of my own body and various ways in which I can optimise my health is a key part of this process.

 

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"Don't die with your music still inside you"

This is a beautiful quote by the late Wayne Dyer, who's movie The Shift I watched again last night.

His quotes that live on and resonate with so many often have a musical poetry to them. I like to think that when we are are living in our element we all intuitively 'sing' from the heart and it is our duty to ourselves and the world to find that place that make our heart and mind truly sing.

Use this life to make sure your voice is heard...

Last weekend I discovered a hidden talent. It took me totally by surprise and its power blew me away. In an act of spontaneity I joined a friend for a weekend festival of spiritual music… didjeridoo, drumming, singing, chanting and everything in between. When we arrived, at first I sat back and enjoy the sounds, marvelled at the skill and the passion of those that played, shying away when I was offered a turn. 

As the day wore on my innate curiosity got the better of me.

I wanted to experience what it’s like to really play a didjeridoo, I wanted to get over my frustration of not being able to circular breathe. That lead onto the drums, something I’ve never even picked up before in my life. The deep resonant base grounded me and spoke deep within. So, with the djembe awkwardly propped up between my legs I gave it a go, my palms beating a simple rhythm. Within minutes I was playing along with the group, it was a crazy, unexpected and beautiful experience. An intuitive jam session that had no rules or reasons, just soul centred notes that came together in the moment, the rise and fall of the rhythm and the beat.

Music is life and life is music. I understood.

In those moments as I was paying the drum I felt a deeper connection than I had maybe ever felt before.

My next step?  To continue that feeling, that sense of connection, of rhythm, of one-ness… of song.

How exactly that materialises is yet to be seen. I'll keep you posted... but at this point I want to give a little shout out to a few members of the amazing tribe I spent my weekend with.

Paul Osborne for letting me ride with him and showing me the way. Drummer and master digj maker. FIND HIM HERE.

Andrea Furlan, master didj maker and performer for teaching me the didj and loaning me one of his beautiful instruments so I can continue my journey. FIND HIM HERE.

Pete Berni who hosted the festival and created the space for a beautiful experience. The 'Summer Retreat' is an annual festival held in Northampton UK… YOU CAN FIND OUT MORE HERE and keep an eye on details for next year.


My wellness immersion retreat in Lanzarote will focus on bringing together all those many strands that make you, YOU. A cocoon of self exploration, the chance to nurture your inner voice and find your true you, reconnect with your song and find the playful and curious soul within.

Join me on November 28th for an incredible week long adventure of personal growth. Email me for a chat to find out more about the retreat or simply for a space to talk and get a little closer to your music. hello@includingcake.com

 

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This is when it all started...

Two weeks ago, this came to me attention. 

Wow! This is when it all started... Wow, how time flies and how powerfully things can change...

It is now exactly four years to the day I began this blog. Four years!!!

I smile as I remember back when I'd had my blog going for a couple of weeks (back then it was purely a recipe blog as a outlet for my newfound vegan experiments) I'd posted a handful of recipes (with some awful photography!) and then I had a mental block... 

I specifically remember sitting down at the dining room table with a notepad feeling frustrated and telling myself "no way was I going to quit when I had only just started!!" I sat there and wrote a list of all the recipe ideas I could possibly think of, the list came to about 40 and I remember breathing a sigh of relief telling myself 'well at least that will be enough to see me through to the New Year'.

Seems so funny to reflect back now. These days I wake up on the middle of the night with recipe ideas flowing out of my head! 

I had no idea four years ago how much time, energy and commitment writing a blog would take. For what? Had I known back then I may have never started. I went in blind, muddling through, learning as I went along, one tiny step at a time. I had no followers and no comments for months on end... 

But I kept at it. I was determined.

I practiced, I improved, I found my voice, I grew into my own power and over time realised I was helping inspire others grow into theirs.

That kept me going. 

All I've ever wanted to do is serve you, to create and inspire curiosity. To give you permission to think differently to try new things and in doing so step into your power and create your own magic.

Your 'likes' and comments on my pages rock my world every single day! Please don't stop. Thank you, thank you, thank you from the bottom of my heart for keeping me going at times of huge doubt and allowing me to become the person I am today and will continue to become tomorrow.

I'm excited to see what the next four years will bring. Most of all I'm excited to see what magic we can create together.

I'm here. For you. Always. 
 

 

P.s if you want a little giggle... this was my first ever post! :-)


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The 'business' of wellness.... have our heads taken over our hearts?

I’m not really sure where this blog post is coming from, I have a feeling it’s been brewing for a while. I can however tell you precisely what triggered me to sit down and write these words right here and now.

When I saw the Mail On Sunday ‘You’ Magazine sitting in my mum’s coffee table this morning with a cover image of Natasha Corrett as the ‘Queen of green’, I was eager to delve into reading the article…

However I quickily became a bit shouty which surprised me as I am not typically an opinionated person. I’m usually the type to sit on the sidelines and watch others debate, not because I don’t have my own thoughts, but because I am pretty good at seeing a situation from various angles or playing devils advocate in a given situation regardless of my own views. 

I think it’s more  growing sense of frustration that had triggered this outburst, not so much the article itself. Please understand that I have nothing specifically against Natasha herself (and totally appreciate the media’s habit of skewing perspective) indeed I follow her Instagram account and to be honest, anyone who is helping to change people’s eating habits for the better, in whatever form that may take is a good person in my eyes. That said… 

I hate the way ‘clean eating’ and ‘superfoods’ (I have begun to hate those words but can’t find better ones so bear with me!) have been become a social status, a fashion accessory, a sex symbol, a competition, and a money making opportunity at every turn…

I follow many wellness and foodie accounts on Instagram, and whilst I love the platform for it I am beginning to hate the flawless feminine perfection I feel is it fast becoming associated with. A green juice held by a long dainty hand with perfectly lacquered nails and a carefully positioned bracelet... for example!

I point the finger at no-one in particular, this is simply a growing sense of unease within me. 

So many of the highly successful entrepreneurs of the healthy eating revolution began their crusade off the back of healing their own health issues… for that I have deep admiration and endless respect and always will. 

BUT then it soon seems to shift, a subtle sneaky shift by the lure of the media as it soon becomes a money making game. Tapping into the widening gap in the UK market, tapping into the need and sometimes desperation of so many health conscious people looking for an answer. Any answer. 

There in a lot of vulnerability in the health and wellness arena. A lot of people looking for answers from the outside yet failing to look within for their own truth. Often women, often looking to rebuild their own confidence and sense of self along the way.

As a health & life coach this terrifies and worries me… the message is becoming skewed, with added pressure and ideologies of the elite lifestyle to live up to. An external visual representation of good health does NOT directly indicate an internal emotional level of good health. 

Looking good on the outside does not immediately equate to feeling good on the inside. Of course the two can and do go hand in hand. This is what we should all be striving for and nutritional plays a huge role, arguably the biggest role. YET I feel this is also the realm of huge misdirection of keeping up appearances, of ticking boxes and not asking the WHY, HOW, WHAT of our own personal health journies.

My own health journey has sure evolved and shifted over the last year or so as I have done a lot more inner work and asked deeper questions of myself. I will share this with you more in a separate post once I've better collated my thoughts.

I hate the way ‘clean eating’ has become portrayed as elitest...

The notion that it is expensive is not helped at all by this new wave of media coverage and fashion icon status. Yes I do use various specialist ingredients myself and I buy organic whenever I can… BUT I aim create recipes largely using the basics. Simple, time efficient, plant based recipes using cupboard ingredients with some of the ‘extra special ingredients’ thrown in or at times when I want to get a little creative. When I do use special ingredients, I use them time and time again in different recipes and so there will never be that situation of buying an expensive ingredient and having it sitting forlorn in the cupboard for ever more.

For me, the innate curiosity in exploring your own health journey through the mind/body connection is lost when we look to the outside for a leader or an identity to emulate. We loose ourselves.

I also hate the growing business focus of wellness. Ok, let’s be clear here that I’m totally cool with making money… it makes total sense that our efforts should reap a financial reward. I also appreciate that this is large part my own personal viewpoint since I am simply not a money minded individual, it’s not what makes me tick. I’d like as much as I need to live a comfortable life but nothing more. Other people have different financial priorities and that’s cool too.

My frustration comes when the INTENTION behind the push for health and wellness comes from the head and not the heart. I feels to me as though that is where many enterpreneurs have got caught up along the way as the clean eating phenomenon has hit the UK like a whirlwind these last few years.

As a coach and also a heath food business owner myself, my fundamental drive above and beyond anything else is to help people. Help people to get curious to explore their own unique wellless journey.

I write my Including Cake blog (and have been doing so for 4 years) that does not directly bring me a single penny of income- no advertising or ongoing affiliations. I do it because I love it and want to serve you and because it acts as my own creative outlet that I want to share. 

I run Wholeplus, my food business that I personally execute at every level from the website to the graphics to the marketing to the labelling to the production of the product mix to the packaging and ultimately dispatch of course I could outside much of this and grow the business hugely, but I choose not to as I want full control to ensure the brand stays true to me and my connection with my customers. 

A believe that  a business in health in wellness should be lead from the heart and not the head.

I think deep down this is why the article in the MOS made me a little shouty. There is seemingly so much competition and bitchiness behind the scenes in the wellness lifestyle environment fiercely dominated by women. These two extracts from the article made me particularly sad: 

“it’s clearly a competitive field, and Natasha is jealously protective of her patch. ‘For me, its about being the first to do something’ she says”.

“earlier she had complained about rivals stealing her sweet potato brownie recipe, which happens to be the most read recipe on Deliciously Ella, ‘I was the fist person to do that, now everyones got a sweet potato brownie recipe, so I always have to come up with new ideas”.

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For me the fundamental aim of a proponent of health and wellness is to live a life of passion and through that truly inspire others to take small steps towards a healthier life, wherever they may be at. It is also a huge opportunity to stand together and unite in wellness, recognising there is enough room in the arena for us each to play a part from a business standpoint yet still be there to support each other as a growing unity in the world.

Really... is this too much to ask?

People like Jamie Oliver, whilst maybe being further from my own food philosophy that many of those in the ‘clean eating revolution’ inspires me daily with his pure passion and drive to connect with the people. Real people at every level of society. He shows up in life, rough and ready, full of passion, full of his truth and full of heart.

Ok, I’m done now. If you've read this far I am truly humbled. I feel as though maybe i’ve rambled and maybe I could have put my point across in fewer words, but I needed to vent in this space. My space. I wanted to be honest and open and vulnerable.

I have no idea what reactions this will cause… positive? Negative? Indifference? This is unknown territory for me to verbalise thoughts like this in the public realm and so writing this is a hugely vulnerable experience for me. But it’s how I encourage you so show upon the world. From your heart and your truth. And so I lead by example with mine.

 




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The magic of Raw Fest

For the last few days I spent a magical weekend amongst magical people in a magical forest by the sea.  

A long weekend to embrace nature, to embrace so many beautiful open hearted souls, to embrace the deeper vegan lifestyle, and most of all to embrace the beauty of our reality. 

I volunteered at Raw Fest. Set by the sea in The New Forest at Pylewell Park, Raw Fest Retreat & Festival encourages you to unplug from the bustle of city life and drop into the nature that surrounds you. A safe haven for all walks of life to gather, learn about clean living and healing technology, and to uplift our souls through a variety of creative arts.

"A decompression party from your everyday busy life."

Getting stuck in as part of passionate, dedicated team was enriching in itself, but the environment  created by the organisers... a truly immersive space to simply BE was incredible. Nowhere before have I felt so accepted to be me, pure and unedited. 

I didn't see my own reflection for over two days (not alone do anything with my hair or makeup!) and when it got chilly in the evenings or early mornings, because I had brought inadequate layers I simply walked around wrapped in my big red dressing gown. No questions asked. 

Everyone in every walk of life was true accepted, embraced and celebrated. 

There were inspiring talks, music, dancing, campfires, food, yoga, meditation, foraging and nature walks. Yet still plenty of moments in between to just sit and soak up the vibe, to think, hug and converse with strangers, who were no longer strangers at all.

On Saturday night the sky was beautifully clear and so when I went back to my tent to sleep I pivoted my sleeping bag to that it stuck out the tent door opening and lay snuggling down in my sleeping bag looking up at the stars. As my eyes adjusted, layer upon layer of stars appeared. The sky was filled with stars as far as I could see. So beautiful and eternal I could have gazed forever.

I went to the festival with a couple of friends, yet many many more, and we camped for three nights. I took lots of fruit, snack bars (recipe coming very soon!) and my Wholeplus Hotpots but also enjoyed plenty of the delicious meals, smoothies and juices on offer. Amrutha were incredible... not just with their amazing vegan food (check out their Facebook Page and find them popping up all over London) but their genuine passion and sweet and pure philosophy on life. On Monday morning as we were packing everything away they conjured up an awesome complimentary breakfast with all the leftovers... just the way I like to work in the kitchen too.

I also had the privilege of being on the 'juicing station'... whipping up a concoction for all members of the volunteer team. There were wasps around me constantly.... I have a big fear of wasps so this was a huge deal for me to overcome! I felt a little proud.

On that final Monday morning I woke up early, before 7am, and the campsite was quiet and still. Not wanting to wake anyone I decided to postpone packing, got wrapped up in my dressing gown against the morning chill and took a quiet walk around the lake running down to the eastuary. 

These were the thoughts that came to my mind, spontaneous and unedited. 

My heart was full with gratitude.  

I felt truly alive.


All the photography for the event was captured by Adrian at Tbilisi Portraits, I have been given full permission to share them with you all here... a little snapshot of some of the magic. Thank you Adrian for capturing it so perfectly.

p.s see me in the last photo after the ceremonal gong bath to close the event late Sunday evening, I'm wrapped up my dressing gown having not seen my own face (erm, or showered) for nearly three days!

For me, this weekend embodied the essence of what I want to offer you at my own immersive wellness retreat. Join me in November in Lanzarote for some deeply soul centred enrichment.

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Hand balancing... a parallel for life

Recently I've taken up head stands and hand balancing. Right now I'm really rubbish, I can't hold myself away from the wall for more than a second at a time but I'm persevering. 

Why?

Because I love the way it makes me feel. I love the notion of being upside down turning the word on its head, experiencing things from a different point of view. I also love the simplicity of the experience, my form in alignment, of progress and of feeling my body grow stronger as one. 

As I was upside down this morning, I thought of something. A parallel for life.

When I hit the sweet spot in my balance, with the alignment of my body stacked correctly within the centre of gravity. Then hand balancing seems timeless and effortless. The effort only comes from constantly bringing myself back to neutral, the constantly needing to realign myself with that sweet spot when I travel too far forward or backwards from the mark.

It all comes down to incredible subtleties of movement that can serve to keep me aligned or throw me off course. A slight shift in weight, the spread of my fingers and contact with the floor, a deeper focus in my mind, a soft gaze, a braced yet relaxed form.

The more I practice, the more effortless it becomes and the more time I can spend in my sweet spot. 

This is what we should all be aiming for in life... maximising time in the sweet spot. The pockets in our lives that feel amazingly effortless, that flow with grace, almost to good to be true such that our minds question it and we tell ourselves it can't be that simple. But it is that simple and with the courage to let go of expectation and with daily practice we can spend more and more time there.


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Jump, Fly...

When I work with clients my only fundamental is we both show up from a space of deep honesty and vulnerability. 100%. 

It’s where all the magic happens, it’s where all the deep shifts take place.

So right here, right now, I’m gonna get vulnerable with you.

My week long Wellness Retreat is happening in Lanzarote on 28th November. I’m incredibly excited as I know in my heart that it will be a truly transformational experience for the ten people who join me.

I am also terrified. 

Creating this retreat is pushing me to the absolute limits of my comfort zone. I love helping and serving people, but I also play it safe and hide behind my computer screen all to often. I want to reach out to you all personally on a deep level, each an every one of you, but I don’t know where to start. I don’t know how to get across the passion that I have for this retreat and to help you see the power it could hold for you if you are at that point of questioning in your life journey.

As I sat in my overwhelm this morning (eating a tonne dark chocolate as it happened!), I reached out to a powerful coaching community and was encouraged to listen to the words of ‘Jump’ by Gary Barlow. Really listen. So I did. Twice.

It rang so true for me, BUT I also think it rings deeply true for you in your lives too. 

Whether you are curious about my retreat or not… please take four minutes out of your day today (right now if you can) to listen to the words and make a little magic happen today.

I am also now asking you to HELP ME HELP YOU…

I would love to powerfully serve you through a coaching conversation. We don’t have to talk about my retreat unless of course you want to. This is about YOU and what could most deeply serve you at this very point in your life.

I want to ask, how can I best support you in taking that ‘Jump’?

Lets set up a time to speak… phone, Skype, FaceTime… it doesn’t matter. I simple want to connect. No expectations.

Don’t hesitate. Don’t over analyse.
Ping me an email and let's do this!

But first… just listen to 'Jump'!

Now I'm out of my funk, I'm off to read some books and chill out with my family.
Loving you always,

 

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Showing up is saying 'YES' to life

 

I've been listening to a lot of audio by Brene Brown recently. I also have her book Daring Greatly which I am just beginning to read. She talks a lot about the concept of vulnerability which is something I am increasingly passionate about expressing in my own life buy also through discussions with others.

If you haven't come across Brene before, I highly recommend listening to this TED talk… It went viral and I can totally see why. I think she speaks to everybody.

The idea of life being a celebration of the 'journey' and not the 'destination' is not a particularly new concept, I see it bounced around in quotes on Pinterest and on the web in various forms. Yes I'm all about embracing the moment (though like most people I get caught up in the rush of life and I forget!) but I really loved Brene's spin on things.

'Showing up' is an incredibly powerful statement.

Sometimes we can fool ourselves into thinking we are stepping into our power and living up to our potential by making plans, thinking about what we will do, reading all the books, speaking the speak....

BUT 'showing up' is in the doing. It's the stepping out into real life and putting those thoughts into actions.  Showing up is the tough part; the real crux of vulnerability. It's the risk taking and the potential for failure.

Showing up is saying 'YES' to life.

It takes us out of hiding- whether that be physical or mental, there is no going back once that step has been taken. Showing up is how you present yourself to the world… Do you play big? Or do you keep yourself small? Of course it can also be a mix of both.

I have had recently been digging deeper into this in my own life. I am aware that I show up so much more powerfully in so many areas then I ever did before, yet in others I still play it small and so have been working through why that might be. I've uncovered a few key things that really stood out to me and that will form another separate post in coming weeks. I realised that in the areas of my life that are most important to me, the aspects of life where I could stand to lose most of all, the expectations of myself are so much higher that the risk of failure is the greatest.

I'd love for you to take a moment to reflect on how are you showing up in life. Are you where you want to be or are you holding back? I'd love to have a conversation with you on this, a totally complimentary brainstorm from a space of curiosity.

Get in touch if you are ready to step out and get curious.

P.s that photo is of me half way round the Tough Mudder obstacle course when I'd just climbed out of a huge vat of ice water... at that point i'm not sure if the pain was more mental or physical!!

 


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I thought you were perfect

I met up with some friends for lunch today and randomly we started talking about trips to the dentist, at which point I said (a little sheepishly) "oh I'm really bad at not flossing".

One of my friends immediately turned to me and said; "I'm so glad you do said that, I always saw you as being perfect as if you didn't ever do anything wrong". She then asked; "Do you ever have days you fall off the wagon or do something that you know you shouldn't?"

Of course!! 

I may well have the title health and wellness crusader in my email signature but I'm only human- and to be quite honest sometimes a crap one at that!

I fall down on the simple things. Like we all do. 

I forget to floss my teeth. I'll turn a blind eye to dust to avoid cleaning or hoovering for another few days, I often don't make my sauces and dips from scratch, I eat dark chocolate until it makes me feel sick from time to time, I'll attack the peanut butter jar with a tablespoon if the mood catches me. I'm nearly always 3 minutes late for appointments. I stand in front of the fridge waiting for interesting things to materialise to put off getting on with real work EVERY DAY! 

Yeah, I drink a litre of lemon water every morning, I eat tons and tons of veggies, I train hard at the gym... These things make me happy, they are part of my routine, they make my little world go round. 

But I'm not perfect, I fall off the wagon time and time again. 

I am like you. I get it. I embrace my imperfections as I embrace yours but more than that I respect your perseverance and determination of stepping up and carrying on. Recognising that it's all a learning curve, that life is a game and a chance to live curiously, by trying a different approach, asking different questions...

When I work with my clients I walk by their side. We might have a hysterical laughing fit about being late or about peanut butter or cupcakes. First getting comfortable with it, bringing it fully into consciousness and getting rid of the fear or shame. THEN tackling it head on with curiosity. 

A perfect life. How boring is that.

Embrace the imperfections and know that I'm right there with you.

 

 

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My Lanzarote Wellness Immersion Retreat is here!

Did you see it!  

Did you see it?

My Lanzarote Wellness Immersion Retreat is here. Yay! Whoop whoop!

It has it's own dedicated page with all the details. I am so excited to share it and so please forgive me if it pops up in conversations quite a lot in coming weeks.... literally everything in my head is geared toward it at the moment.

True story... when I was in Lanzarote last week and my co-host Daniel and I had just secured the villa. I was dancing around his kitchen exclaiming 'yay, now I can develop loads of awesome recipes for the retreat' at which he laughed at me and said 'Jo we need to actually fill the spaces first'. Oh yeah, I guess there is that! 

#cantstopthinkingaboutfood

I won't go on about it too much now as you can read all about it here but I just want to leave you with my little poster I have just been crafting. It was exactly one week ago today I was standing by the that poolside of the villa in the photo! :-)

Please, please get in touch if you are curious to know more and want to chat about it, or just chat about anything heath and wellness related... i'm always here for you!

P.s if you are not already on my newsletter list... but want to be kept in the know about the retreat or future news and events, please sign up here (you'll also get my cool recipe ebook as a little gift!)

 

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Why you don't need to be girly to be feminine

 
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I was invited to a group chat with Kendra Tanner of The True You Project a few weeks back, and one of the topics we touched on that really stuck out for me and that was the distinction between feminine and girly.

I've never thought of myself as a 'girly girl' in the typical sense, or indeed any sense. I've never been into clothes shopping, make up, getting my nails done or anything else you'd associate with an outwardly girly image. I'm not particularly delicate in my nature, indeed you're much more likely to find me running a Tough Mudder obstacle course or lifting weights in the gym. These things commonly associated with much more masculine characteristics.

I've even been proud to proclaim my lack of girliness, as if a certain robust masculinity is in some way better, or in fact maybe this has been a defence mechanism is to hide my envy of my 'girly' friends that I couldn't identify with in that way or felt that I could never become. 

It's been interesting over these last couple of months as I've been doing a lot more soul-searching, seeking my identity which has experienced a huge shift over the last few months. Ever since my holiday Lanzarote so many thoughts and feelings have been bubbling up inside. For the 10 days I was away it was even noted how my energy changed from the start of the holiday to the end. It was remarked that I'd let my walls down, put aside the sense of rushing and need to achieve and simply BE. It was in these moments of being that my feminine energy flourished. I didn't see it myself at the time but it was picked up in the eyes of my host who told me as such, even in the softness of my face as well as my mannerisms. Apparently I looked a different person. In his words:

"Your inner snow-white is still sleeping under the magical spell of the busy mind. This astute mind freezes the feeling part and snow-white is waiting for years until the prince, the true masculine part of you, which is not the rational mind, but the peaceful warrior. Until he comes and brings snow-white back to life".

And so the notion that 'girly' and 'feminine' are two distinctly separate characteristics caught my attention. I don't need to be girly to be feminine. I can allow myself to feel and express my innate femininity without compromising the other aspects of who I am and the roles I play within my activities and relationships.

This was a huge revelation to me and something I am only just beginning to explore. I'd invite you to do the same. 

I'd love to hear how you relate to the notion of femininity, or indeed for the guys out there, how your relate to masculinity. Ask your partners and family members the same question!
 

 

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Trust is worth the risk

 

I've been doing a lot of inner work recently, allowing thoughts and feelings to bubble up to the surface and learning to trust my intuition and create the life I truly want to lead.

I love this three minute video, not just for the strength, power, purity of the movements (though I admit that I do have a thing for that too!!)  but also the powerful words spoken... these are my favourite extracts...

Trust is worth the risk

We expend so much time watching and calculating, trying to reading signals in people before anything to change suddenly. Preparing to be disappointed.

We talk about trust as something we ‘build’, as if it’s a structure or thing, but in that building there seems to be something about letting go.  But it allows us to stop thinking, to stop worrying that someone won’t catch us if we fall. It allows us to relax a part of our minds that we can focus on what’s right in front of us and stop worrying what’s going on when we are not there. 

That’s why it’s such a tragedy when it’s broken. 

Trust is not one way but many ways. Trust is your relationship to the unknown, it’s a slow and steady practice of learning about the capacity of the world.

For me, it's also a practice of leaning about the capacity of yourself.

Can you cultivate more trust with yourself or the people around you in your life today?


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